Custody exchange days can be emotional and confusing. One of the factors that can lead to this is not being prepared. Being anxious, seeing your child cry and getting to the exchange location only to realize you didn’t pack what your child needs can complicate exchange days.
Here is how you can prepare to have a smooth transition:
Know what your child needs and pack it
It’s vital to list the things your child needs and pack them. Although your child should have belongings in both homes, from clothes to toys, they may need to move around with some things, such as school supplies, medications, sports equipment, special blankets/pillows and so forth. Besides, they may have an upcoming event, such as a birthday or extracurricular activity, and what they need for that event may be in your house.
Consider involving your child in packing their bag to remind you if you forget something. Doing this can also give them a sense of control and security. If possible, pack the night before the exchange day. Rushing when packing can result in forgetting important items.
Talk to your child
While your child may be happy going to the other parent’s house, they may be anxious about leaving you. Thus, it can be helpful to talk to them before an exchange day. Let them know you will miss them and will communicate with them (according to your custody agreement).
However, be careful not to overwhelm your child with emotions, as it can worsen their anxiety. Find a balance between being honest with them about the upcoming transition and getting them excited to see the other parent.
Preparing for custody exchange days can significantly benefit you and your child. Obtain more information about this and other custody-related matters to avoid misunderstandings with your co-parent.
