When parents share custody after a divorce or separation, one of the most important decisions they must make is crafting a parenting time schedule that works for both them and their children. There is no one-size-fits-all solution, as every family has different needs, work schedules and living arrangements. So, what are co-parents to do?
If you are co-parenting your child with your ex and you’re unsure of how to divide time between both households, know that the “best” shared custody schedule arrangement for your family is one that will reflect the unique realities of each household. To start, you’ll want to prioritize your child’s well-being and the ability of both parents to maintain a meaningful relationship with them. You’ll also need to take work schedules and any other “non-negotiable” concerns (such as health issues and the needs of any other children) into consideration before formalizing an approach.
Common options
Several shared custody schedules are commonly used, each with its own benefits and challenges. You might want to consider the following, tweaking whichever option best meets the needs of everyone who is going to be significantly affected by it:
- Alternating weeks: A child spends one full week with one parent, then the next week with the other. This schedule minimizes exchanges and allows each parent extended time with their child. This option tends to work better for older kids who generally weather longer periods of transition more successfully.
- 2-2-3 schedule: A child spends two days with one parent, two days with the other, then three days with the first parent. The following week, the schedule reverses. This arrangement usually works well for younger children who may thrive with more consistent contact with each parent.
- 2-2-5-5 schedule: A child spends two days with one parent, two days with the other, then five days with the first parent and five days with the second. This schedule provides stability while better ensuring both parents have extended time with their child.
- Weekend-focused schedule: If one parent has a demanding work schedule during the week, the other parent may have primary parenting time on school days while the other takes extended weekends or alternating long weekends.
When determining a parenting time schedule, just keep in mind that there is no “right” approach. The best approach for your family is the one that works best for all involved.
