If you and your partner have children together and have made the choice to separate or divorce, you will no doubt be concerned about how you can or should collaborate on parenting after your split. For many people, the step of separating and living in different homes can offer both parents and a chance to establish a home environment without the stress and conflict that may have existed in a troubled marriage. These more peaceful home situations can help parents and kids alike but are just one part of helping your kids. 

As explained by The Oprah Magazine, divorced or separated parents should make a pact to themselves to never display negative feelings or thoughts about their former partner in the presence of their children. This means they should only speak positively of their child’s other parent and they should avoid facial expressions or other mannerisms that may be less than pleasant as this puts kids in the middle. 

On special days like Mother’s Day, Father’s Day or a parental birthday, moms and dads should proactively help their children select gifts or plan special activities. This type of behavior shows children that it is safe and good to love both parents, providing kids with the high level of security that they need for their emotional health and well-being. 

This information is not intended to provide legal advice but is instead meant to give separated or divorced parents some tips on how they can effectively work together with their former partner or spouse to raise their children together in a positive manner.